Game: Power and Pursuit
Humans are adaptable. This is what puts them at the top of the food chain. Losing adaptability makes you prey. Surrendering it intentionally makes you stupid prey, including prey for the demons.
Men are adaptable, but there are limits. This is because God’s calling of manhood requires a certain amount of intransigence. Without that, there can be no defense of moral imperatives. Some things are most assuredly worth dying for, some things worth killing for, and men lacking a sense for such things aren’t really men.
Women are more adaptable, more deeply, and over a wider range of things than men. Their mission from God is a little different. Protecting the nest and the brood requires that; we call it mothering. It’s a good thing, a critical thing.
In social interactions, we are dealing with how the Fall and several millennia of human failure have sometimes nearly smothered our God-given instincts. The reason Game Theory is such a growing interest on the Net is because it explains the disjuncture between cultural mythology and observable fact. While most writings in the Manosphere fail to examine the ancient biblical understanding of such things, they do at least offer an antidote to the ocean of poisonous lies.
The loss of innocence in the Fall means an inherent blindness to truth. What would be obvious to an innocent moral consciousness requires now a redemptive act of revelation. Given enough time and determination, we are permitted to see beyond the outer shell of the revelation, and contemplate the deeper and broader meanings. While often difficult to put into words, we rightly keep trying to find more parables for the ineffable truth until it becomes obvious to whatever audience we are trying to reach. We participate in revelation and redemption.
Fallen women crave power and control over things which affect their nesting. Rise above the merely literal here. Try to think of nesting broadly as the instinctive behavior of women, regardless what the individual women consider their nest eggs. While a woman’s environment may shape what she values most, how she acts is broadly consistent with every other woman in the world throughout history. A woman awakened to truth, having tasted revelation and redemption, will be more conscious about the moral imperatives and understand her own instincts better, but these tend to be the slimmest, tiny minority wherever we go.
Women vary in their conscious recognition of what goes on inside that instinctive wiring. Post-Modern Western feminists will demand control over every detail of their personal lives. Whatever it is they may say they want, you can identify that underlying thread of instinct to control. Think about the politics of women voting and how family courts treat men. They speak of human rights, but the fire is completely personal. What’s personal becomes political. They want a bigger club with which to hammer the men in their lives, and government is about as big as it gets.
Give her power voluntarily, and she’ll treat you as an ally, but she will not respect you. Charming, manipulation, activism — all forms of feminine power flexing. Show her they don’t work, that she has no power at all over you, and while she may consciously be angry, something in her wiring is drawn to you. Most these days will take it as a personal insult, will harass you endlessly, because they can’t let it rest. That’s instinctive.
Power in our modern context is not what it would be in ancient biblical times, men. For most of us today, we flex our God-given calling by building a character which includes a willingness to cut our losses without much sign of emotion. If she can’t make you hurt, she has no power.
Marriage properly happens when the peculiar mix of conscious choices and instinctive wiring makes for a stable and lasting partnership. This includes the probability of parallel growth in understanding and the response to that greater wisdom. Marriage is unstable at best when you build on any other approach.
The Western mythology of man pursuing his bride is not in Scripture. There is an apparent reference to it in places like the Song of Solomon, but the words translated into English do not capture the entirely different perspective of the Hebrew mind. For example, the idea of simply dating around until you find a decent match would never happen in ancient times. A man in search of a bride would always be working through intermediaries. Always; it’s almost a form of peace treaty negotiation between clans and tribes. So obvious is this to ancient Hebrew minds, they seldom bothered to mention it. In our Western world, where none of that exists, pursuing a women hands her too much power. Don’t do it.
Make her come to you. Do not supplicate; make her the supplicant for your attention. Don’t be needy. A woman worth having will be drawn to your mission and power, men. You may need to work at being perceptive about it, but God takes care of more loose ends than you can imagine when you are faithful to His ways. Ladies, prepare your minds and hearts to carefully measure when a man displays the godly power of your shepherd. Nothing else you desire should stand in the fore; it all should depend on the man. Decide what you can and cannot tolerate as he is when you find him, because God is the one who makes and changes hearts, not you. Your instinct to see potential is mostly a lie, unless you’ve studied this issue at length.
That we are adaptable means we can study His ways and grow wiser against our own fallen natures.