Guys, Put Your Mission First
The truth of moral justice does not have to make sense, but we are required to make sense of it.
The issue of what a man can call his mission from God is covered elsewhere on this blog. What matters here is making sure you put that mission above your own life, and everything in it.
Much as we need the love and support of our women, we are fools if we ever get the notion we can’t be effective and useful in Kingdom service without them. We wait on God to provide whom He knows is best, but it’s seldom that obvious even to the most spiritually sensitive men. So your best indicator is when a gal exhibits an interest in your mission, along with some interest in you as the man on that mission. Her primary reason for entering your life is not your personal comfort, important as that should be to her. Your primary reason for letting her inside your world is her commitment to your mission. Notice: She doesn’t have to be a big fan of what you do specifically, but of you doing it.
That’s because God reserves the right to change your calling at His whim. It has happened to me repeatedly. But I consider myself a bit of an the extreme; a change or two over your lifetime should not be the least disturbing. Women are thus designed with a certain flexibility about such things, remaining committed to you in your changing mission. But the reason God grants any man a wife is first and foremost for whatever mission he has today.
In pursuit of this, she must be resolute about your leadership. You are the shepherd, and you are in charge of the mission which includes her. If she can’t make room for you to screw up, she has no business being involved. If she can’t learn the proper submissive feminine talents for catching your attention for the preservation of your reputation and mission, she needs to learn. Sadly, such teaching is almost non-existent in our American culture, nor much of anywhere else in the West. Where some claim to have it, they offer a highly corrupted version derived from our Western heritage, not from the Bible, and can’t tell the difference. Carping, poking, deflating and calling into question your worst and most blundering mistakes makes her your enemy, not your wife. You may have practical reasons for not unloading her right away, but you cannot trust her as your life partner. She’s just a toy accessory.
None of this prevents her becoming a corporate CEO or whatever. As a great wife, more power to her, as long as she doesn’t bring that crap home and use it on you. Everything changes in your presence or she’s not God’s woman for you. A critical part of your duty is catching her when she starts slipping into that mode of undermining your authority. Call her on it, give her room to correct as is consistent with your personality, but don’t let her get away with it. Don’t open doors to the demons, because they ride in misplaced feminine dominance.
The other day someone posted on Facebook a photo of some aging Babyboomer feminist. I could care less what she looks like. When you know Christ and His power, beauty is in her spirit. But when she’s holding a sign saying to the effect she considers God’s justice inapplicable because it sounds to her like the bad ol’ days, and she refuses to surrender her radical feminist dreams of “equality”, all I can say is: Fine, Babe. Stay with it. I’m sure we’ll find some way to get along without you. I don’t have time to pick on her. Meanwhile, it’s not back to the 1950s we’re going, but back to Eden via the New Testament, laws of the land be damned. Following Christ includes submissive wives and shepherd husbands.
I don’t need to justify the truth.