Don’t be too simplistic.
In several posts I’ve advised folks to use Game as a means to operating in social situations, simply because that’s a reflection of basic human nature. It applies most of all when you find yourself in a new setting. You walk in the door; the one thing which matters most is keeping your cool. If you can build that overpowering sense of mission, nothing will ever shake you, nothing will ever surprise you. Stay somewhat aloof. Make eye contact with whomever makes themselves significant; then close your eyes deliberately and look away at something else (says Vox). It works.
When I do this, I’m only acting. It’s not an easy part to play, because it’s not my natural personality. Indeed, saying “I’m an actor” should be a clue.
Simply because I’m introverted does not mean I have no social skills. I did have to learn them the hard way, but learn I did. I gained a very powerful stage presence. I know what to do when all eyes are upon me. I can tap dance, as the expression goes, and have typically gotten away with it. I am shameless, completely open and frighteningly honest about myself to others — but only when it serves a purpose.
I didn’t get there easily, because I had to become that honest with myself, first. I had to become the fellow who never takes himself seriously. When the focus was no longer on me, but on the truth — that Christian Mysticism thing — it no longer mattered what I or anyone else said about me. If it is true, who could argue, and why would they? I won’t. If it’s not true, in most cases folks who matter to me would know better.
Charisma is different things to different people. When people tell me I have it, all that means is I was able to reach them without trying hard. It means if I wanted to lie, I could very easily. Apparently I have little trouble getting the majority to follow me when I speak in public. This is something you can hardly train for, because everyone who really has a conscious awareness of such things agree: You either have it or don’t. It’s a gift, a talent, in the sense it is written into your character at birth.
So along with my advice to be cool initially, I would hope you have the sense to eventually be as much yourself as whatever that means to you. For me, that means being a big joker, enthusiastic and energetic, crazy and shameless, etc. I’m a nice guy; I love making people smile. I’ll wrestle with kids, touch people playfully, act a complete idiot for the sheer joy of living. As soon as I think I can get away with it, that’s how I’ll present myself because it’s what I do. At the same time, I’ll take you very seriously, regardless how old or young you may be.
That’s my mission.
It doesn’t take a prophet, only someone paying attention, to realize we are entering a time of massive loss of human life.
Those who believe the world is designed to support only a half-billion souls may not get their wish, but there will be a massive reduction in human population very soon. Those who feel safe enough to dream up such nonsense are fooling themselves. It’s not the End of the World, but it will be a piece of the Apocalypse.
We’ve already seen the effects of warfare by the West on brown peoples. That’s just getting warmed up. New and more diabolical weapons are being designed every day for small scale killing. We still have a huge stockpile of WMD. I tend to believe Stuxnet also managed to help us all get a good dose of radiation, already. No one officially will talk about it, but the failure of the Japanese reactors to respond to emergency controls, even when running on battery power, are precisely symptoms of that computer virus, which was developed by Israel, and almost certainly the US. The point is, human nature is pretty deadly, both by design and by culpable negligence.
But even greater catastrophes arise from “acts of God,” with flooding, volcanoes, earthquakes, and now diseases. Were you aware of the new resistant infections sweeping Europe? They’ve been hammering the US hospitals for quite some time, now, but honest reporting on it is sparse. There is a pneumonia strain, which seems to have started in Greece, producing an enzyme that destroys the very latest and newest antibiotics.
As for “Global Warming,” we shall have painfully higher temperatures in some places, while an new Ice Age creeps down over other parts of the world. Humans have nothing to do with it directly, in the sense any scientist is going to ever make a conclusive link, in part because none of them understand climate and weather well enough. But the real issue is human sin, and the moral fabric no scientist wants to recognize, but does exist in this world. That refusal alone would be sin enough for God to take action, but the whole world is wallowing in moral filth of every kind.
That’s the whole point. When mankind walks justly, the Lord prospers however many are born, and the planet will support them because God will sponsor discoveries which make it possible. But when mankind chooses the wrong path, flouting the Laws of God, then Creation itself becomes hostile to human life. For every life taken by the hands of sinful men, nature will take ten or a hundred. It will appear random, but rest assured, those who suffer most have lived the worst. There is also the tendency for those to suffer last to suffer worst. Our time’s a’comin’.
I make no apology for the judgments of God against sinners. He warned long, long ago.